I need some friends. No, this is not a plea for everyone to say, "Oh I am your friend" and it is not a pity party, at least not a big one because I am blessed with the best sister/best friend and a wonderful husband who loves me dearly.
I met a friend here in our town when my twins were 18 months and her son ( Mr. C) was 8 months. We were in Bible Study together. We went through a miscarriage (mine), deaths (my mom's and her aunts), lots of illnesses, tears, laughs, hours watching kiddos play at the park, pregnancies (Toddler and Big D). One day I get a phone call that she is not going to be coming home for a while. It was a big shock. We spent a day together during spring break and it was wonderful to hang out, drink tea, cook lunch and watch the kiddos play around us. Due to some family issues, she has moved to her hometown at least for now. I really miss her. Here are our sons now:
It is hard to build good friendships especially in this busy world we live in. I have had other friends who have fallen by the wayside when our lives and our schedules no longer are the same. One friend seems to have dropped us when her daughter started public school and we began to homeschool. I have some new friends that I have met through homeschooling and they are wonderful ladies and our children love playing with each other. I know with some time and cultivation, these friends will continue to grow closer. But it takes time.
I have some wonderful friends in my life and now it is time to grow some new friendships. It means being vulnerable and open and accepting and loving. It means being willing to let myself take some risks. It is hard. It takes some courage. I feel like that little girl who started middle school and didn't know anyone. She sat by herself for two weeks until finally someone who also had a brown bag asked if she could sit beside her. We were friends and still are. Or that 18 year old who went to college with fears and met an Oklahoma girl with long curly hair who made those four years special. Or the black haired beauty who came to a softball game as a spectator and left with a new friend.
I've been down this road many times as well. My friends keep moving on me too! I'm finding that its getting harder and harder the older I get. Several of my friends, who moved, have also expressed how difficult it is to build new relationships.
I really miss a good, kindred spirit friend. (A "bosomest buddy" as Anne Shirley would say) I won't tell you how long its been becuase it will only be depressing.
Good luck to you. I know it can be very lonely at times and well.. the blogosphere (as nice as it is), is just not the same a chat over coffee
Deb
Posted by: Deb | March 21, 2006 at 10:15 AM
I know what you mean. I just told my mom today that I wish I had a good neighbor who just drops by to chat every once in a while.
I have to say DH is my bestest friend and I love our long talks on the phone but would rather have him here.
My mom and sis are next but again they are just long talks on the phone.
I have a few friends here but we don't often see each other. I know I could call them if ever I needed anything but I want that friend that just drops by or calls to chat. It's been YEARS since I've really had that and I miss it too.
Posted by: Mommy22Ss | March 21, 2006 at 11:01 AM
Move back to FW, and your best friend will be never be more than 15 minutes away!!
Posted by: elisabeth | March 21, 2006 at 08:46 PM
I was thinking the very thing. YOu could stop by on your way home from school for a cuppa and some nephew kisses.
Posted by: Athenainaminivan | March 22, 2006 at 10:39 AM
Hey girl...this made me sad. I wish I was there to hang out. I know what you mean....it seems the older we get that friends come and go. I have been lucky to find a good friend from church, but lately we never get to see each other, because our kids are going different directions. It is hard~~~because there are just things your man doesn't understand & only your girl friends do!
Posted by: Cheryl | March 22, 2006 at 03:31 PM
I understand what you mean very well. I am blessed with one "bosomest buddy" who lives right across the street (!) but this is after almost a decade of no close friends but Mr. Honey (since I got married). I wish you a best friend so close you two can share a cup of coffee for a few minutes as you wait for your hubbies to get home.
(You know, I think we live close to you. Not in-the-neighborhood close, but maybe less than 30 minutes away, and, if I am correct, we drive your direction every Friday. We should explore this.;o)
Posted by: Katie | March 23, 2006 at 07:32 AM